Bullying: Who Started It? The bus driver? The children riding the bus? Parents meeting the bus? Does it matter?
Really, as an adult ask yourself that question, and the answer is: it doesn't matter, because the truest answer is: an adult started it. We teach our children everything good and bad. We teach them that we ignore often what is right in front of us and what we never learned to handle as children. We ignore so much because we perceive that, the interest in fixing the problem is barely there. We would do better to learn to deal with problems as they happen, instead of when we get around to it, or worse, when we are forced to deal with it, by accident.
As a parent, guarding, teacher, I spoke to the events of the day, when I heard about them. My kid's circumstances, so many of the events of the day affected her, more than I knew. As an artist, my work has allowed me to enjoy so many diverse opinions and lifestyles, and it has been a real education in who is affected and effected by what, when and whom.
Your kid rides the bus to school and returns home every day. How many hours per day does that amount to? How many hours that you are not, nor is but one adult, watching out for your kid? The driver is doing a complete job by safely driving your kid to school and back. So often they are judged for their discipline when they are simply working to get your kids home each day, free from car accident or traffic related incident. They aren't babysitting they are driving.
I mention this because I just watched a child on a school bus who was bullied. Obvious bullying on the bus and from his fears expressed in an interview, years in the making. We can see on the surveillance tape, that this child is not aggressive, nor acting out, he is just different than some of the boys around him. It is the behavior of those children, that I say and adult learned. I am much too old to recount my experiences and expect them to be relevant to the current generations who are being subjected to the "Lord of the Flies" school bus bully mentality, which supports the hive collective mind, and that is what we see in bus time bullying. We see the enactment of the territorial imperative, this time it is boys. Girls can be just as mean, and are not exempt from this behavior.
I suggest a discreet personal alarm. A personal alarm will alert any adult that their attention is required. Any child will receive any adults' attention, which as everyone knows is the biggest problem with bullies. They think they are unrecognized. That no one is watching them. Remember it is not the kid who wants your attention that is the problem, it is the kid who doesn't and you may not get the story right. Use your best judgment, call attention to this problem by giving your child the protection they need. Teach them when to call for help and how. Purchase them a personal alarm from http://www.guardurself.com and educate them on self defense.
Watch the movie "Bully" - See how to protect your children from bus bullies. Research your local bus drivers and kids riding the bus. Talk to your son or daughter about what's going on during the bus ride. Each bus has a surveillance camera, review the tapes and see what is going on!
Really, as an adult ask yourself that question, and the answer is: it doesn't matter, because the truest answer is: an adult started it. We teach our children everything good and bad. We teach them that we ignore often what is right in front of us and what we never learned to handle as children. We ignore so much because we perceive that, the interest in fixing the problem is barely there. We would do better to learn to deal with problems as they happen, instead of when we get around to it, or worse, when we are forced to deal with it, by accident.
As a parent, guarding, teacher, I spoke to the events of the day, when I heard about them. My kid's circumstances, so many of the events of the day affected her, more than I knew. As an artist, my work has allowed me to enjoy so many diverse opinions and lifestyles, and it has been a real education in who is affected and effected by what, when and whom.
Your kid rides the bus to school and returns home every day. How many hours per day does that amount to? How many hours that you are not, nor is but one adult, watching out for your kid? The driver is doing a complete job by safely driving your kid to school and back. So often they are judged for their discipline when they are simply working to get your kids home each day, free from car accident or traffic related incident. They aren't babysitting they are driving.
I mention this because I just watched a child on a school bus who was bullied. Obvious bullying on the bus and from his fears expressed in an interview, years in the making. We can see on the surveillance tape, that this child is not aggressive, nor acting out, he is just different than some of the boys around him. It is the behavior of those children, that I say and adult learned. I am much too old to recount my experiences and expect them to be relevant to the current generations who are being subjected to the "Lord of the Flies" school bus bully mentality, which supports the hive collective mind, and that is what we see in bus time bullying. We see the enactment of the territorial imperative, this time it is boys. Girls can be just as mean, and are not exempt from this behavior.
I suggest a discreet personal alarm. A personal alarm will alert any adult that their attention is required. Any child will receive any adults' attention, which as everyone knows is the biggest problem with bullies. They think they are unrecognized. That no one is watching them. Remember it is not the kid who wants your attention that is the problem, it is the kid who doesn't and you may not get the story right. Use your best judgment, call attention to this problem by giving your child the protection they need. Teach them when to call for help and how. Purchase them a personal alarm from http://www.guardurself.com and educate them on self defense.
Watch the movie "Bully" - See how to protect your children from bus bullies. Research your local bus drivers and kids riding the bus. Talk to your son or daughter about what's going on during the bus ride. Each bus has a surveillance camera, review the tapes and see what is going on!
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